Kaye Bock Memorial Online

171 Responses

  1. Brendan Nee Says:

    Kaye was an amazing person and I am privileged to have known her.  I hope this website helps people express their thoughts and share their memories of Kaye.

  2. Idalina Baptista Says:

    I would like to express my most sincere thoughts on Kaye’s memory. She was definitely an incredible person at DCRP, so humane, and always a sincere presence in our life. Personally, I will greatly miss her. She always took me “under her wing”, as I guess she did with each and every one of us students. I wish I could be in Berkeley to join you all for a last goodbye. But, she’ll live forever in our memories.

  3. Maria Catalina Ochoa Says:

    Is hard to express all the feelings I had for Kaye. She was my first contact with the department; she supported me throughout the admissions process and throughout all the difficult moments during my studies. With a smile she always motivated me to volunteer for the most boring jobs (set the tables, clean-up, sign up sheets, etc). In a University where everybody seems too busy to care too much about the individuals she always showed each of us how important we were for her and for the department. Kaye left on us lessons of tolerance, flexibility, friendship, organization and service to our community. I will always remember her with great admiration and respect…

  4. Seth Andrzejewski Says:

    I can remember my first correspondence with a person named “Kaye Bock” whom I knew only as a person to contact for my graduate school application. My first email to her started with the greeting “Hello”. That was it, I didn’t even acknowledge her name. It was shy, staid, and riddled with low expectations. I kept my inquiries short and formal, hoping that someone at Berkeley could respond to little ol’ me. The response from Kaye was returned with “Hi Seth,”. I read it as a pleasant and warm greeting. Those two little words were a seminal moment in my dealings with UC Berkeley: I had a real person that I could trust and feel safe in corresponding.

    The real Kaye was even better. She had a warm Southern charm. Most here would agree that she was one of the best things to ever come out of Texas. She would stop to listen to your concerns. She would ask about how things are going in your life. By all the business she had to do and all the paperwork she had to process, you knew she couldn’t spare a minute of her time. But she always did. When I made a difficult decision to leave the program for a year and move back east to get married, Kaye spoke to me in a serious manner about how she’s seen people leave the program to get married and never return and acknowledged how she could get in a lot of trouble with the Dean if something like that happened again. Then with perhaps a wink and a hushed voice, “now you see that form behind you… you’ll need to fill that out… in about 10 months you should fill that form out too and send it back to me…” Like the Good Book that sat on her shelf, Kaye was a source of guidance in a shaky time. She was a source of compassion, when the rules did not favor it. More than that Kaye was the face of humanity, in all we could aspire to be, and a taste of home in this often strange place.

  5. Wendy Tao, class of 2007 Says:

    Before seriously considering UC Berkeley as a graduate school option, I cold-called a previous alumni. The first person told me about his thoughts, and ended with “But all you really need to know is that Kaye Bock holds the key to the hidden treasures of DCRP, and you should make sure to get to know her very well.” I proceeded to contact Kaye, who at that time had broken her arm and was on vacation, but she encouraged me to apply and talked with me at length during her time off.

    In this instance, I realized that Kaye has that special gift of making you feel that you are the only one that matters at that moment – she looks you in the eye with those kind eyes and allows you to pour out your heart. In return she smiles, gives a wink, and tells you that everything will be fine. Many times I have walked into her office confused, but left her office with the day ahead of me like a limpid stream.

    I am so happy to have known Kaye, and I must revise what a former DCRP alumni told me about holding the treasures to the department; in fact, Kaye Bock was herself the biggest treasure that DCRP had. I will miss her dearly.

  6. Stephanie Kim Says:

    I have so many things I could say about Kaye. But one of the things that has been so salient in my memory since she passed is how she always inspired you to be a better human being. Kaye was an incredible humanist. She cared genuinely about people and demanded, in her own genorous way, a spirit of love and compassion. She was and still is the moral compass of this department. That to me will be her legacy.

    Yes, she was very good at her job. She was the sugar that helped the medicine go down. She had an uncanny sense of when to check in with you, and just how much to intervene so that she really was the perfect second mom. You could also count on her to give you the straight dope. And, not surprisingly, she commanded alot of respect from the students. What Kaye says, goes. Ultimately, though, it was her extraordinary capacity for caring and compassion that made us all so privileged to have her as our Student Affairs Officer and friend.

    Kaye was truly one of those one-in-a-million people and I will miss her.

  7. William Riggs Says:

    Like many students, I think Kaye was instrumental in bringing me to Berkeley. I had heard her name by a graduate professor years before, and worked with her as a professional in the Bay Area, but the extent of her graciousness was not truly manifested until I began to seek admission to the PhD program for myself.

    She lobbied hard for me to be taken of the wait list and granted admission to the program, and I believe largely due to her efforts, I was allowed to enter this past fall. Then when the timing on that was not quite right for me personally she made every effort to accommodate both me and my wife in our needs and timing.

    I hope her gracious spirit will be a model for the program and school for years to come.

  8. Alexander Quinn Says:

    Kaye was the mother of the department. Any student that knew her felt she was rooting for him or her to succeed. When I talked to her last, she reminded me that I was the last person to dance with her at the holiday party. She had a picture of us dancing on the staff board. I always felt indebted to her with her insights into getting into DCRP. When she told me I was selected for DCRP, I could hear her own personal joy. I am deeply saddened by her passing.

  9. Jia Ching Chen Says:

    As so many people have said, Kaye devoted herself to those around her, and in this way, she made the world a better place. In my earliest interactions with Kaye, I learned that she was an incredible optimist and a believer in doing one’s part to change the world. She showed this through her years of commitment to DCRP, but more importantly to all of us as individuals and representatives of communities near and far.

    I applied to the MCP program from Taiwan. Kaye wrote me a kind email as soon as she knew I had been admitted. She told me she wanted to make sure I knew as soon as possible, and that she was excited to meet me and have me join the DCRP community. This was more kindness and communication than I expected. Still, I was waiting to hear back from other programs and told her I wasn’t ready to accept. What really touched me was her assurance that the spot would be held for me (despite the deadline), and her encouragement to wait and to make the best decision for myself–even if that meant that I chose a different school. Kaye, without ever meeting me, made me feel that I had a great deal to contribute. She showed that she believed in me and wanted the best for me–even if that meant more paper work for her.

    To me, Kaye’s optimism and generosity of spirit represent the faith and courage that should infuse all of our work. I will remember and miss her.

  10. Simon Alejandrino Says:

    Kaye put a warm, concerned, and heartfelt face to an often bureaucratic institution. She was the first person to turn to with a question or crisis and looked out for us like we were her own kids. Considering the hundreds of students that she’s seen through DCRP’s doors in 20+ years, her ability to make you feel that she cared about you, specifically, was nothing short of amazing. We were really lucky to have Kaye, and I’ll greatly miss her.

  11. Marcus Says:

    I love you Kaye.

  12. Anonymous Says:

    Kaye was DCRP and the institutional memory of the department. She was smart, funny, professional and kind. I entered the Dept. in ’84 from 3 1/2 years in a squatter settlement in Manila as a Peace Corps Volunteer. I wrote about the experience for a visiting professor who commented that my paper “reeked of empirical data” to which Cohen replied “what you should make it up?” In a daze I plunked myself in front of Kaye who closed here eyes & shook her head, I loved her. In the Light of the Universe may she dance with the fairies.

  13. Malo Hutson Says:

    Kaye, you were a wonderful person and friend. Thank you. You will be missed.

  14. Alberto Di Minin Says:

    Kaye, I will treasure forever your advices, your support and love. You took care of me from the very first day till the very last of my adventure in Berkeley. I will miss you.

  15. SangHyun Cheon Says:

    Though it never would have been possible without Kaye to continue my study in Berkeley, I haven’t expressed my thanks to her. It is sad to think that it will never be done…

    I knew that Kaye was crazy about jazz, as I am. While we seldom exchanged our thoughts on that, I realized that she might have her wish lists somewhere. I found her final wish lists from amazon listed a few weeks before her passing:


    I wish I could give her all of these.

    May she rest in PEACE!

  16. Cecilia Collados Says:

    We all had very different experiences at DCRP, but one in common: the kindness and understanding Kaye gave us. We learned how to build community in many classes, but she was the top professor at that.
    Thank you Kaye.

  17. Josh Langenthal Says:

    Kaye was a gem. She helped me through DCRP (combined with L.Arch environmental planning) like the seasoned pro that she was and with kindness and forebearance. In my mind, she’ll always be part of the Wurster Hall experience. I am so glad that I stopped by to say hello last year.

    I hope that we alums can really get together a meaningful scholarship fund in her honor so that her good will and good actions will live on for a long long time.

  18. Anonymous Says:


    Your gentle matter-of-factness always illuminated my day – like a silver lining in the clouds. Your iridescent spirit brought out the best in everyone and every situation. To me, you have been, are still, and always will be a brilliant and live source of guidance and assurance of possibility.

  19. Malla Hadley Says:

    Dear Kaye,

    There are no words to express my sorrow. From the day I walked into Wurster Hall, you took me under your wings, helped me, taught me, prodded me, molded me, challenged me, and believed in me. Your courage, strength and determination gave us hope for the future, and yet kept us firmly on the ground and on task. You carried the world on your shoulders and never let us know the weight of your worries.

    I give you this promise; to honor you by remembering how humble service can really change the world, by altering our paths and helping us see the future that is possible.

    With love ~ always,


  20. Ryan Greene-Roesel Says:

    Kaye was one of those rare people who was both very powerful and very kind. Like the good witch glenda in the wizard of Oz, she possesed the magical touch necessary to move mountains. But she wielded her authority gently, gracefully, and with a touch of dazzle.

  21. Rachel Edmonds Says:

    I had the honor of publicly thanking the DCRP staff, including Kaye, last May during graduation ceremonies. Kaye was genuinely so proud to be there and be part of our day – she was beaming for us! I am certain that she knew our success was a result of the mastery and pride in the role she played in our education. All these thoughts and stories that people have related about Kaye Bock speak of her impact on our lives. Things that stick out to me are her ability to take time to relate to us as individuals, her thoughtful and sincere nature, and the energy she displayed as a knowledgeable and proactive advocate for students.

    I will miss her very, very much.

  22. Patricia McCormick Says:

    Dear Kaye, your weekly missals of job announcements tethered as all togther regardless of where in the world we were & when we dreamed of the possibilities you posed, you always noted our presence.
    I put my best Alaskan hiking boots on, from my last consulting outpost, and walked through the Amish farm country where I now live, then I went to the market & bought the biggest bunch of flowers they had.
    And now I am listening to Prairie Home Companion in your honor & in the end Garrison will remind me, as always, to be kind.
    A loss of this sort always stops the heart.
    We loved you, thank you Kaye.

  23. Duane De Witt Says:

    Tears welled up each time I started to write something about Kaye this week. Perhaps she has just left to pick up her Angel wings? They are so rightly deserved, but I wish she would not have left so early.

    Because I have seen her wonderful generosity before, it has not suprised me so many folks, far and wide, have paused a moment to remember her kindness. May we each carry a small part of her memory forward, plus share her spirit of gentlessness and supportive assistance to others also.

    As we move forward and place benches, signs, and memorials for Kay let’s also keep the Kaye Network alive forevermore.

    Please share your “wealth” of Kaye with others and we may make a better world in her memory. Please try to make it to her funeral if you can, plus support her memorial fund.

    God Bless Kaye and You also.

    With kindest regards.

    Duane D.

  24. Kamala Parks Says:

    I hope that Kaye continues to live on in all of our memories, that we may honor her by treating our fellow human beings with kindness and respect. Even if we can’t be as great as she was, we can aspire to it. Long live Kaye!

  25. Roberto Laserna Says:

    I cannot express properly how sad I am with Kaye’s departure. She was the kind and tender soul of Wurster Hall, and her memory will remain warmly and deeply in our hearts. Our lifes were blessed with her life. From Bolivia, where she will always be fondly remembered, let me join my prayers to yours.
    Roberto Laserna

  26. Kara Vuicich Says:

    Whenever I think of DCRP, I immediately think of Kaye – she was such an integral and important part of the department. Her passing is a tremendous loss not only to DCRP, but to the larger planning community. I hope that she knew how much we all valued and appreciated her genuine caring, kindness and generosity of spirit. She will be sorely missed. May her memory be for a blessing.

  27. Anonymous Says:

    I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who so lovingly is remembering my mother.
    To us she was the best mom, friend, grandma, woman, mother in law and in general person that we have ever known.
    As our hearts are broken at this moment we can still feel her love and arms around us and if she taught us anything it is that love can conquer all.
    Please keep her memory alive so that even in death she can forever live on.

    We love you Mommy! Wish you were here. We will love you always!

  28. Sourav Sen, DCRP '94-'96 Says:

    Twelve years of knowing Kaye. Last conversation with her, three weeks ago. Prior to that, three years ago.

    Didn’t ever matter how much time went by between my picking up the phone and calling her…each and every time I spoke with her – for any reason or for no reason – she always made me feel I was special to her and everything connect where we last left them. She always, always had the time, the smile, the cheer, the unconditional love to shower me with. Just for me, she made me feel.

    I was so wrong, I realize reading these testimonials.

    Not just for me but she had it all for each single person who crossed her life.

    What a human being! There can be no other.

  29. Stacey Murphy Says:

    Kaye was an extraordinary presence in the department — generous, warm, selfless, and deeply concerned about everyone in DCRP. I could describe many times that she did something extra for me — something that would require more paperwork for her, or more time, or a few more e-mail messages at the end of her notoriously long workdays, etc. — but I know that she did those things for everyone. She exceeded her job requirements all the time, for everyone in the department, because she genuinely wanted all of us to succeed.

    In addition to her generosity, her institutional knowledge was unsurpassed in the department. This meant not only that she knew and remembered everyone who came and went through DCRP — which is astounding enough — but also that she talked about them regularly, reminding me (intentionally or not) of all the other students who came before me and the many to follow, putting things into perspective and making the sometimes lonely trajectory of the PhD much, much easier.

    Kaye wasn’t much for taking credit for her accomplishments, but they were numerous and immeasurable. She will be missed.

  30. Aleida Andrino-Chavez, MCP '99 Says:

    How many times did I come to see Kaye before applying to the Master’s program? I cannot count. I think she was the reason I applied, and she was the reason I got admitted. Her warmth, her diligence, her advice, her generosity. All of these qualities played a role in my decision to apply and gave me strength during my time at DCRP. I cannot describe in words my feelings at this time when DCRP has lost one of the most instrumental members of its staff. The only thought that comes to mind is that I was lucky to be part of DCRP when this Angel, turned human was there helping professors, students, and fellow staff members with motherly care. Kaye, I remember like yesterday when I came to you when I had just started the Master’s program and expressed my desire to continue breastfeeding my then, two-month old baby Diego. You kindly suggested that I could use the women professor’s lounge (and got me the key) to pump milk. I would then keep it in the student’s lounge freezer until it was time to go home at 10:00 or 11:00 pm. Like me, many students came to her for whatever reason. And she was always there for everybody… Every one of us was equally important to her. . . May Kaye’s memory live in our hearts always. May her spirit rest in Peace.

  31. Claire Says:

    I can’t believe you are gone Kaye. When I think of DCRP, I see myself sitting in your office. I am asking you for help yet again. I know that I will walk out of that room with the problem fixed, or you will have made me realize that everything will work out just fine. You did this countless times a day, for anyone who walked into that office. And you never asked for anything in return.We will miss you so much.

    I am a better person for having known you.

  32. Lan Deng Says:

    Kaye, now I look at your picture, your smile. I still cannot believe that you are gone and I will never get to see you again. I thought you would always be there for us, just like a mom waiting for her kids to come back. And I would always get to hug you when I go back to Berkeley. I remember the first time I met you. It was the first day I stepped on the U.S. soil. I was so lost and kind of scared. But when I saw you, I knew immediately that there was nothing to worry about because you would look after me. You did! Your love, your care made Berkeley really a home to guangyu and me. I cannot imagine what our lives in Berkeley would be like without you. Now I’m in this cold country (as you called it), I missed Berkeley often. But I knew that it was you, you made Berkeley so warm. Kaye, getting to know you is the best thing happened in my life. You worked so hard and gave so much to others. I know you were tired and wanted a rest. Now you find it in heaven. May you rest in peace. You would always be in our heart!

  33. Anindita '92 Says:

    Kaye believed in us all and went to bat for us without a second thought. Our education was her reward for her tireless efforts – for tireless they were. She was full of heart and soul. Her spirit lives on within the echoes of Wurster Hall, in her family and in each one of us. May her spirit be rewarded with eternal bliss.

  34. Yodan Rofe Ph.D. 1997 Says:

    The news just reached me now, it’s so sad. It always seemed amazing to me how Kaye was able to give so much to so many without one ever having a feeling that she had more important things to do than solve your problems. I know I owe her the ability to finish my studies.

    I think her spirit was a great part of the reason studying at DCRP was such a joyful experience.

    My thoughts are with you all, her family, friends, students and faculty.

  35. Joanne Manson Says:

    Kaye made it possible for me to finish the graduate work I started many years before then choosing to continue as a practicing professional planner rather than ‘mastering’ the profession with the completion of my graduate degree. After 11 years of ‘practice’ and travel and having kids , I decided now would be a good time to finsh my masters degree ! – Kaye was my main source of encouragement and support and resource ensuring that my re-application was accepted. Thanks to her I was able to re-enter and finish my graduate degree – 2003.
    She and I had stayed in touch throughout those years and shared our family developments- One of her sons(in-law I believe) had gotten stationed over in Germany with her daughter and she had got to visit. As I had lived in Germany during my childhood (as my Mom is German) I would share some of my fond memories with her – as her grandchildren would perhaps experience.
    I will always carry fond memories of Kaye with me – she was my second mom – And I share her family’s grief and hold the best wishes for her family.

  36. Diana Bock Says:

    As Kaye’s youngest child, the one who truly grew up in the halls of Wurster, I am extremely grateful for all of you loving words about my mother. It fills my broken heart to read all of your memories of her amazing spirit. As I read your stories I know that I have heard many of them from her over the years, and I know how much you all meant to her. My brother, sister and myself were so very lucky to have her as our mother and many of you adopted by her into our family. We hope many of you will be able to attend her service and join us in celebrating her life. She was kind, good hearted, and an amazing role model for all who knew her.

  37. Susan Moffat '06 Says:

    I’d like to say thanks to Kaye’s family for sharing her with us. She was there for all of us, always patient, competent, and ready with a sense of humor that could make a bad day good. As someone returning to graduate school with two children in tow, it was nice to have someone around who just understood everything without any need for explanation. Kaye had a gift for understanding each person, whatever their situation, and giving them what they needed.

    After completing my degree in December, I kept meaning to send Kaye a note to say how much I appreciated all her help. Too late! Now Kaye has taught me yet another lesson—say thanks while we have the chance, as anyone can be snatched away without warning.

  38. Ryan Waterman, JD/MCP 2003 Says:

    How many times did I walk into DCRP with some administrative issue or question? Kaye is working furiously at her desk as I poke my head in the door, smile and say, “got a minute?” As I say it, I can feel how busy she is, but she never turns me away. Instead, she smiles, and says, “what is it this time?”

    From my first visit to DCRP to explore the possibility of a joint degree program, to my last visit to say hello a few years ago, Kaye was the constant, friendly, welcoming face of the department. And so capable! She knew the ins and outs of the university, and her deft guidance smoothed the path. There was no issue that she (1) couldn’t fix herself, or (2) direct you exactly to where you needed to go for the final answer. There was never any run-around with Kaye — she was just superb at her job.

    But being good at her job was only what brought us to Kaye. She meant so much to our community, I think, because she treated each of us like special individuals, and took the time (which she almost always did not have) to learn about us. She wanted to know who you were, and how you were doing. And that just meant so much. Even in a small community like DCRP, having someone who cared and would reach out was a special gift. In that way, Kaye is a reminder to all of us how we can be better people on a daily basis, even in the midst of busy, challenging careers.

    To Kaye’s family . . . the gift Kaye gave to our community is one we never can repay. But I hope the outpouring of love and stories on this listserve demonstrates that we share your grief and loss. She was wonderful.

  39. John Rudolph Says:

    Thank you, Kaye! What a privilege to know you.

    You took me under your wing even before I applied. You helped me with all the paperwork I processed through your office, as I took courses all over the campus, and tried to figure out what kind of a planner I wanted to be.

    Just before I graduated you put your foot down once and strongly suggested I take 204B, which turned out to be one of the campus’s best courses. Thank you for putting me in Ananya’s classroom.

    After I graduated you posted my bulletins announcing small projects for interns, and you helped me recruit CED undergraduate and graduate students for these projects.

    You know I always looked forward to showing you that your belief in me as a planner, even before I became a planning student, was justified. Thank you for this faith in me, Kaye, and for your faith in my classmates and your colleagues. Your passing is a loss for the department, the college and the campus, and for the community of planners in the Bay Area. We’ll see you in Heaven, but in the meantime our hearts sing praise and thanks for your time on earth. Thanks for being generous, and thanks for being competent. Kaye, you are great! and we all really miss you.

  40. Kaye's New Year's Wish Says:

    Going through Kaye’s emails, I found this.
    ~ Malla

    ——- Original Message ——-
    Subject: New Year’s Wish
    From: kbock
    Date: Sat, December 30, 2006 1:06 pm
    To: kbock

    by Gordon H. Taggart

    I wish I were:
    big enough to honestly admit all my shortcomings,
    brilliant enough to accept flattery without it making me arrogant,
    tall enough to tower above deceit,
    strong enough to treasure love,
    brave enough to welcome criticism.
    compassionate enough to understand human frailties.
    wise enough to recognize my mistakes.
    humble enough to be thoughtful of my neighbor
    and righteous enough to be devoted to the love of God.

  41. Diana Zinkl Says:

    Kaye was an amazingly wonderful person. She did so much to help so many students. She always knew exactly what to do to make everything work out, and she did it all with a smile on her face. She really was the Department mom. I hadn’t seen Kaye in years, but it was still a huge shock to hear that she was gone. I can’t imagine the Department without her. Someone else may have her title, but no one can take her place.

    All the best to her family and everyone in DCRP.

    Diana Zinkl

  42. Enrique R. Silva Says:

    Dearest Kaye,

    Your absence hurts. I miss you, although I know you will always be present in my heart and mind. I can only hope that DCRP—its students, faculty and staff—can carry and honor your memory the way you carried and honored all of our hopes and aspirations, with selfless, tireless, respectful and loving devotion.

    Most of us are recalling your uncanny ability to remember every soul that has walked through (and in some cases simply called) DCRP: our interests in planning, our diverse backgrounds, as well as the joys and sorrows of our personal lives. You opened your heart to all of us, and we took you up on the invitation to be heard and helped. You not only remembered each and every one of us, you made us feel special and safe.

    I want to recall one more thing about you. If I remember correctly, you flirted rather seriously with ministry and tried out seminary before you walked through the doors of DCRP. For several reasons, you did not go down the path of ordained ministry, which is not to say you gave up your calling to minister to people. You were more than a mother figure to many. You were a minister to the entire DCRP community: you listened and tended to our individual and collective needs; you provided a moral compass to the community; you provided a haven; and, most of all, you forgave.

    Kaye forgave everything from missed bureaucratic deadlines to the misuses of power and arrogance that are all too common in academic settings as rich, vibrant, and complex as our beloved DCRP and the University at large. To forgive is to understand, and Kaye seemed to understand each and every one of us at DCRP, warts, promises, awards, and all. If Kaye did not understand, she tried and no one can deny that she tried. To forgive is also to mend. When there was mending to be done, personal or collective, Kaye was there and she helped as best as she could.

    Forgiveness, understanding, and the will to heal and unite, we tend to forget, are key elements in making communities like DCRP strong, healthy and loved. Thank you, Kaye.

    I know you’re resting now and that makes me happy.

  43. Joe Leitmann, PhD '92 Says:

    A sense of humor combined with knowledge of the University’s intricacies and an ability to make our lives easier and better — what more could you ask for? Kaye was that special human being who was genuinely concerned, energetic and thoughtful. She touched many of our lives in a kind and positive way — that spirit will live on. The DCRP alums here in Indonesia miss her deeply …

  44. Ricardo Noguera Says:

    I first met Dr. Bock in 1986 shortly after driving cross country from NY to Berkeley. She was one of the first persons to greet me at Wurster Hall. I didn’t know whether to yell or hug her because I was awaiting my fellowship funds with no response. But with her million dollar smile all I could do is give her a big hug. It was as though I had encountered an old family friend. Well, over the short two year stint at DCRP, Kay and I became very good friends. In fact, some may have thought otherwise (smile). Kay was a cancer like me having birthdays just a day apart and our relationship brought us in touch with our families so I was able to meet her husband and beautiful children.

    Kay was more than a friend for the students and faculty at DCRP. She was a mom away from home, a big sister and a real genuine friend. She was truly a living Saint, always there to provide advise and support whatever the circumstances were.

    I will truly miss my buddy, sister and mom.


  45. Brooke Ray Smith Says:

    Kaye had a way of absorbing but yet deferring praise that totally intrigued me – most people either deny compliments completely, which is frustrating, or they accept them knowingly, which is rather off-putting. Every time I told Kaye how much good she was doing for all of us and that I hoped she was getting enough rest and recognition for her superwoman efforts, she’d chuckle softly and say, “Well…” and then launch into something about me – “happy hour’s going well, congratulations” etc.

    She got me into grad school, like many others before me. After my first pass was rejected, I came to her to ask what I could do better for the next round. I was amazed that she knew my old boss, Eugene Tsui, about whom she had nothing but warm things to say despite his rather iconoclastic time in the program. She told me that what I needed to do was enroll in Fred Etzel’s CP252 as a concurrent enrollment student (she provided the forms), get him to write me a recommendation, and I’d get in the next year. Simple. Yep, it worked.

    Kaye, one of the last things you asked Tim Duane to do was to recommend me for a national environmental fellowship, for no other reason or motivation than the fact that you are a thoroughly good, optimistic woman with undying faith in those around you. I’ll try my darndest for that fellowship, because I know you want to see those you cared about succeed. Your love has boosted so many of us that much closer to reaching the stars – Thank You.

  46. Alex Westhoff Says:

    I will be eternally grateful to Kaye and all the help she gave me during my application process to DCRP. Like many others, I will miss her very much, but hopefully we can remain inspired by our memories of her to be all that we can.

  47. Christopher Lollini Says:

    No amount of words could come close to capturing the debt of gratitude I owe Kaye for what she has done for me over the last two years. Even at this point in my life I can safely say that her help in bringing me into DCRP has changed my life and positively altered my course for the future. Thank you Kaye, you will be missed, but we know you are up there cheering us all on everyday.

  48. Puja Kumar Says:

    I am so sad to hear about Kaye leaving us. For me Kaye was the human, gentler face of DCRP, and I can’t think of one without the other. She watched out for me, as (I didn’t realize) so many others. She was genuinely happy for any of my little successes and so encouraging during the bad or confusing times. I will always remember her as an inseparable part of my DCRP and Berkeley years.

  49. Yasuyuki Motoyama Says:

    Of all the time when I was a PhD student, Kaye was a mother-like figure to me, and probably to everyone at the department.

    Seven years I stayed. The longer I stayed, the more favor I asked to her. Every time I got into a trouble, need an approval letter, Kaye was the first and the last person I could talk to. And she always had the right answer. There was no way for me to return all the favors I received from her.

    At the same time, I always wanted to give her my updates and progress I made at the program. It was her warmness and passion to every student that made me tell her so. Just like a son wants to report what accomplishment he made, and just like a grandson wants to tell what happened to school to her grandmother. I thought that was the least I could do for her.

    I completed my degree just last December. To report my filing, I visited her office in one quiet evening. She showed me the biggest excitement that nobody else gave me. Not even my advisers, and not even my closest friends. “Oh, my god, he’s a doctor now!” She told me those words with her usual big voice, her big smile, and her big hug. I knew she would love to hear the news; I knew she loved to see her students complete the degree and move onto the next step.

    There were many more things that I wanted to report to her. When I get a job, when I move to a new place, when I get a child. I wanted to give her all my updates, stay connected, and share important things in my life.

    Unfortunately, I cannot do it anymore. I will report to her in heaven. May peace be with her.

  50. Trina Walker Says:

    Kaye is the kind of person that we should all be lucky enough to have in our lives. From the first time I went into her office with my daughter to inquire about the program, she was full of support and encouragement. I can hear her voice and picture the wink in her eye when she would always tell me “Don’t worry about it, we’ll work it out.”

    I read some kind words about Kaye from a person who graduted the progrm in 1986 – the year I graduated High School. That is the true testament to the gracious nature of Kaye. The fact that she could have such a profound impact on such a borad range of people, from all walks of life speaks for itself.

    I am sad that she will not be there physically to see me FINALLY graduate, but there is no doubt that her spirit will walk with me throughout my journey. God Bless you Kaye, I’ll miss you but will find comfort knowing you are with the other angels who guide me.

  51. Janet Smith-Heimer Says:

    My relationship to DCRP started as the wife of a grad student, and grew into work with faculty and employer of DCRP grads. My relationship with Kaye, however, was without labels – she could see and reflect the humanity in every person. Her inner light and generous spirit will live on in our memories. Kaye, you left us too soon – what will we do without you? There is a saying…Life is a journey, and death a desintation. I hope through your journey that you have found peace.

  52. Payal Says:

    I knew Kaye rather briefly – for one semester while I was concurrently enrolled in DCRP – and in that semester, Kaye knew me more than I, her.

    From my first panicked telephone call to her from PA to the last email from her on Saturday, she remembered every detail, every question, every concern I’d ever posed to her. That, I now know, is just Kaye. I can only say that selfishly enough, I am sad that I will never get to experience her love, warmth, and unending support as everyone else on this listserv was fortunate to have done.

  53. Robb Smith Says:

    There is little I can add to the good words so many others have written about Kaye, but I do owe her a personal debt of gratitude. It was Kaye’s understanding, counsel, and friendship that made it possible for me to juggle doctoral studies, parenthood, and work. I don’t think I could have remained in school without her kind support — emotionally and practically. Thank you, Kaye!

  54. Heather Hood Says:

    In 1994 it was not clear I would be able to do the joint degree program after I applied to DCRP from architecture. Apparently that year, the head of the admissions committee didn’t want any more of ‘those architects.’ When it came down to it, Kaye made it happen. So she didn’t know I knew this until I took her flowers graduation day and we joked that my career from then forward would be hers too. Well, I’ve ended up around Wurster Hall for my career since 1997, married another DCRP grad and created two sons. So ever since, we joked that all the highs and lows of the career, pregnancy and family were to her credit or fault. Most recently I told her on email last Sunday that the sore throat I had from my son’s preschool was her fault. I know she laughed. She always could laugh and I will deeply miss her ability to see life’s and the department’s humors as well.

  55. John Cook Says:

    We all loved Kaye so much because she gave so unselfishly of herself.

    She had the real talent of making the person she was talking with genuinely feel like the most important person around.

    Eschewing self-promotion, Kaye used these and her considerable other personal gifts to give, give, and give back more — I think many of us will remember her as one of the most dedicated and selfless people we’ve ever known. We are all grateful to have known and loved Kaye.

  56. Todd Goldman Says:

    Kaye was one of the most generous, selfless people I have ever met. She was always a true friend to me, giving me support and encouragement throughout the long nine years of my graduate studies. I loved her, and will miss her.

  57. Kari Holmquist Says:

    I worked with Kaye gathering and editing the information for the new DCRP website. I was astounded by how dedicated she was to her students, how anxious she was to make sure they had all the information they needed. She had tremendous energy — even with all she was already doing, she made time for me whenever I needed it, was forgiving and supportive when problems occurred, and was so appreciative of my efforts that she helped to keep me sane during a number of difficult weeks. She later sent me an e-card, a thank-you card, and was as excited as a 10-year-old, asking if I’d opened it yet. She told me that when I did, to make sure the sound on my computer was turned way up and that many people were in my office trying to get work done. I kept forgetting to open it. Last Wednesday, going through my emails from her so that I could “hear” her voice again, I found it. I turned the sound way up on my computer. The card was an animated chorus-line, top-hat number of singing and dancing cats. It was irrepressible, heartfelt, and goofy. Two co-workers were startled. She would have been so happy. I shall miss her very much.

  58. Nick Perry Says:

    I met Kaye when I was just 19, one of the first students to be admitted to the department’s new Urban Studies major. Kaye made the department feel like a home to us new kids on the block and immediately tried to fold us into the DCRP community.

    From the little things like getting our photos up on the face board… to the big things like helping set-up our own student organization and providing us with all the advice and encouragement we could ask for, she was there for us. She even made a valiant attempt to get us undergrads access to mailboxes in the DCRP grad student lounge. (The grads didn’t think that was such a great idea ….and I guess I’d agree with them now….but we sure did appreciate the thought, Kaye!)

    I really got to know Kaye once I decided to apply for the MCP program. She took me under her wing and guided me through the application process. I’ll never forget the day Kaye told me I was admitted. I was just walking down the hall between classes, and she poked her head out of her always-open office door and told me she needed to speak to me. I was worried something was wrong with my application. But as soon as I stepped through the door a big smile spread across her face and she told me I was in. Then that wonderful wink of hers… I can’t even express how good that smile and wink made me feel.

    I feel so lucky that I was able to experience this program while she graced our halls. I only wish that my last two years here were not hers as well. As a graduate student, I’ve been constantly amazed by how much Kaye gave to our program and to each of us individually. Like so many others have said, she took our dreams and goals as her own and did all she could do to help us realize them. She made us all feel special. She was a quiet but profoundly effective leader and a wonderful role model and friend.

    Her confidence in me has inspired and motivated me to be a better person. I will miss her so much, but I will carry her memory in my heart always.

  59. Honey Shor Posner Says:

    In many ways, Kaye Bock is the person/force that made DCRP a nationally ranked program. Some might say the professors, some might say the students, but in reality, Kaye provided the glue that held the department together.

    I met Kaye when I was 21 and working for Fred Collignon. Over the next 9 years, she never forgot my name or anything about me. She made me feel special; she made me feel like I had a home in the monster that is Wurster Hall.

    I still have her in my address book, and the thought of erasing it just makes my eyes tear. I never could have graduated without Kaye. I find myself reading emails she sent me over the last 2 years.

    I jsut wish I could have told her goodbye.

  60. Amalia Lorentz MCP'98 Says:

    So many others have expressed feelings I share – about Kaye personifying the program and the experience of DCRP, always seeming glad to hear career and personal news from students of the ancient past, remembering every detail, being ultra warm and caring. How can anybody else ever bring the same sense of “home” to the department? I appreciate the memories I have of her and regret her family’s loss.

  61. Michael Donovan Says:

    I always thought of Kaye’s office in Wurster as the unofficial student room–it always seemed to have more students in it than the student room next door. Kaye was such a good listener and confidant for us. In fact, she’s the only person I know in DCRP whose name was transformed by students into a verb, kayebockin’. To go kayebockin’ was to ask to be bailed out of a mess—bureaucratic or otherwise—that students found themselves in especially during the last week of the semester. It wasn’t just a term of last resort, it was a term of hope and optimism—if there existed a way to escape your plight, Kaye would know and put a rescue plan into action. Kayebockin’ meant to ask for and receive the prized “get out of jail free card” for city planning students in distress.

    Kaye’s bonhomie always trumped my best skepticism and I am grateful to have known her, if only for a short time. Her generosity serves as a model for us to follow in our personal and professional lives.

  62. John Erlich Says:

    Kaye was always such a great help to DCRP students, myself included. We will all miss both the practical assistance and emotional support which she gave so generously. I carry numerous fond memories of Kaye. My thoughts go out to her family, friends, and colleagues.

  63. Amber Evans Says:

    May everyone on campus in acting to fill the gap left by Kaye, feel a little humbler, a little closer and the community strengthened, rather than weakened, as we each look to live a little more in her likeness. By living in her likeness we can honor her.

  64. Lifang C. Says:

    I first worked with Kaye on the masters program admissions committee back in 1993, and had a chance to glimpse the inner workings of her office—piles and piles of files, folders and boxes with imminent deadlines; streams of people dropping in requesting her immediate attention; and the uncanny ability she had to shift between tasks with agility and grace, always with her sunny smile. Kaye wore no masks, being genuinely transparent about who she was. I fondly recall having dinner with Kaye at La Bateau Ivre in the Spring of 05. We discussed our personal hopes, fears and vulnerabilities—my struggles to balance a recent return to graduate school with personal life; her visions of life beyond retirement. Kaye shared her fond desire to work in the nursery of a hospital taking care of “the little ones.” Later, in a brief phone conversation in December of 2006, I was very impressed by the sharp recall she had of a potential candidate to the doctoral program, and the obvious care with which she spoke of this individual whom she had only recently gotten to know. Kaye’s passing is to me is a bitter loss because she remained full of life, vitality, commitment and hope to the very end.

  65. Diane Hill Says:

    Kaye has a great many admirers in the Graduate Division. This admiration springs from witnessing her deep commitment to her students’ welfare as well as her wonderful sense of service to them and the department as a whole. I particularly remember our exchanges in working with her during the crisis in Lebanon. Kaye, you are missed and loved. May blessings surround you–you knew that service is the greatest of all human endeavors.

  66. Carla Trujillo Says:

    Kaye was and angel to the students. I am so saddened by her departure. May we all continue to live in her spirit.

  67. Anh P. Nguyen Says:

    An kind and caring person she was, Kaye will always have a place in my heart. It was a honor to know her… My condolence to Kaye’s family.

  68. Forest Atkinson Says:

    Like countless others who passed through DCRP, I much admire Kaye for her spirit, generosity, and genuine caring. Kaye helped me countless time during my days at Berkeley, and her smiling and helpful persona made stopping by the main office a pleasure. She was a constant guide, from the first email I sent to DCRP enquiring about admissions decisions, to my last sheepish trip to hand in my months-late PR. Of course, having seen scores of other students in the same situation, she didn’t bat an eye, gave me a hearty congratulations, wished me luck on my endeavors in the real world, and made me promise to stop by and to keep them updated.

  69. Jim Fung Says:

    As others have mentioned, Kaye was very generous with her attention and time — going far beyond the call of duty. I look back now on some times that I emailed her little questions over the weekend or in the early evening, and wonder, why did I do that? Why couldn’t I email it on Monday? Better yet, why couldn’t I just find out the answer myself some other way? Surely it would not be impossible to find the answer elsewhere. Sure I said in the email that it was not urgent, but didn’t I know that she would still probably respond when she should be resting or spending time with her family?

    Kaye did the work of two staff people at least … Financial aid for students, first, in the talk of donations in Kaye’s memory is admirable; a memorial bench, too, is a great idea … But I also think some of these donations should go to easing staff workload in the future, and to hiring more staff. Kaye would never complain about her workload, but we knew that she had too much on her plate, and yet we did little about it.

    Coming up within months, we will also need to continue the strengths of the admissions recruitment events that Kaye organized — where she again went beyond the call of duty in the attention she gave. Those with a memory of how this recruitment has been done in years past, must remain involved this year and pass it on to succeeding classes.

    Every day in the past week that I’ve walked to Wurster Hall after I got off the bus, there’s been a second where I’ve thought about how great it’ll be to pass by Kaye’s office and wave hello if she’s out in the hallway as I head to class in room 314B — only to remember. Little things like this, and other personal incidents mentioned in other memories here, demonstrate how deeply important Kaye was to the morale of the department — and what a wonderful, loving human being she was. Thank you, Kaye, I will miss you.

  70. Ryan Russo Says:

    Like seemingly all of us, my journey though DCRP was made simpler thanks to Kaye. I feel particularly indebted as I may not have become the person I am now if not for sage advice from Kaye I received before even applying. I was enthusiastic but ignorant of urban planning; Kaye’s caution that any application citing a childhood building towns of lego is instantly put in the “No” pile prevented a potentially disastrous and embarrassing move on my part!

  71. Donna Duensing Says:

    Kaye and I attended Pacific Lutheran Seminary (GTU) together in the early 80’s. I was shocked to hear of her death. As I read these comments from the people whose lives were touched by Kaye, I celebrate her life and her vocation. My heart also goes out to her children. I remember watching you grow up — especially you, Debra and Diana.

  72. Deborah McKoy Says:

    Kaye believed in everyone that came through her door and would champion their cause with great passion and determination to provide whatever help was needed. On the Friday before she passed away, we were on the phone and she shared with me her glowing comments about everyone in my spring class. She talked about students as though they were family, and cared for us all the same way. I love this quote by George Bernard Shaw and feel it is so fitting for Kaye:

    “I want to be thoroughly used up when I die, for the harder I work the more I live. I rejoice in life for its own sake.”

  73. Gerardo Sandoval Says:

    Kaye was the positive, warm, and motherly spirit of DCRP. I know she is in heaven now and that brightens my heart. I will deeply miss her.

  74. Lizette Hernandez '98 Says:

    Kaye, you are a unique, unforgettable spirit. You stood behind me and many others through many challenges and showed us how to enjoy our educational experience…Thank you for being so generous, genuine, and caring. So many of us are grateful to have known you and will keep you alive in our memories.

  75. Anonymous Says:

    I had only talked to Kaye over the phone and met her once but each and every time I would call Kaye to inquire about my application or express my worries she would help me with the upmost kindness and care. She was truly one of a kind and will be missed deeply.

  76. Navjot Athwal Says:

    I had only talked to Kaye over the phone and met her once but each and every time I would call Kaye to inquire about my application or express my worries she would help me with the upmost kindness and care. She was truly one of a kind and will be missed deeply.

  77. Maureen Hickey Says:

    Kaye Bock had the most admirable spirit and really made DCRP a great department. She was always going above and beyond her responsibilities to make sure that current and prospective students were able to attain their goals.

    I am so grateful to have known her and to have received her support and guidance during grad school. She was a comforting maternal presence anda wonderful friend who me through some of the long days at Wurster. Thank you, Kaye.

  78. Jason Kaldis Says:

    News of Kaye’s passing brought shock and immediate tears followed by deep sadness.

    Not fair!

    Kaye is one of the most beautiful people I ever met. She was always gentle and helpful in every setting I had the privilege of working with her, whether the CEDAA Mentorship program or the job fair or orientation day or just around the CED.

    Kaye could always be counted on to inform and connect people with the things they needed. She put others first and was the embodiment of dedication to a role that she created, not just a job that she was hired for, at the University.

    Kaye did the extra thing, made the extra connection, was great at getting people to pitch in when something needed to be done, but was also the person one could count on most if no one else stepped up.

    There is no reason to expect that her contributions could be surpassed, she was that dedicated and ultimately, that creative.

    We last exchanged emails on 12/9/06 and expressed the hope of seeing each other at the Job Fair at the end of February. I will carry the memory of Kaye at other Job Fairs with me then.

    The consolation will have to do, but it is woefully short of its mark.


  79. Britt Thesen Tanner Says:

    My strongest memory of Kaye isn’t an interaction that I had with her. It is of the huge standing ovation that she received at our graduation ceremony back in 2001. She received more applause than any of the graduates or the professors – and rightly so. She was the person that enabled us all to be where we were. She helped us get through the application process, through getting adjusted to campus, through finishing all the requirements, through filing all the papers, through finding jobs, and she continued to help us even after we graduated. She made it all work seemingly effortlessly and did it all with love.

  80. Maria Cacho Says:

    For the light always coming from your office…. Thank you Kaye!

  81. Jeff Vincent Says:

    Kaye, your wonderful guidance and friendship got me through many a day in DCRP. I was always amazed and humbled by your dedicated passion to each and every student. We are blessed to have experienced you in our lives and I cherish the many laughs you and I shared in your office. You are a true mentor, inspiration, and dear friend.

  82. Jeannie Wong Says:

    When I heard the news of Kaye’s passing, my heart sank … I’ll always remember Kaye for her warmth, kindness, and good humor. I don’t ever recall her saying “no,” but “let’s see what we can do.” It was her can-do attitude and devotion to the students and the planning profession that helped make DCRP a great program.

    Kaye — you are deeply missed and will always be fondly remembered.

  83. Iris Starr, AICP, MArch and MCP in 1989 Says:

    Kaye was the “best of” DCRP for me, and a key contributor to my health and well-being between 1985 and 1989. She consistently took the time to listen and was always ready to laugh (and sometimes cry) with me. Her support will be remembered; her passing is a great personal loss.

  84. caron parker Says:

    Kaye was such a treasure. I came to DCP as a single Mom with a 3 year old. Kaye was like a den mother. You could talk to her about anything. She always found a way to help you with administrative details or just personal stuff. She had a great sense of humor and was never too busy to help. Years after I finished the program I still had trouble getting a copy of my degree because of some issue with registration fees. I hadn’t talked to Kaye in about 8 years. She still found time to help me – an old duckling! She got to the bottom of the mystery and I got my degree. She made a few calls. . .that was just Kaye.

    Kaye was a special spirit and the world will not be quite as bright without her.

    Caron Parker
    DCP 1989-1991

  85. Mary Ann Parks Says:

    I am so sad to learn of her passing. Kaye (Duncan then) was my friend in college in the 60’s. She was a selfless, gentle, warm and loving woman, always charitable and kind, never saying anything critical of anyone, always reluctant to speak of her own problems. I love you, Kaye, and I will pray for you and your family.

  86. Susan Harris Says:

    It has been 20 years since I graduated from DCRP and there is only one person who personally touched and impressed me from that experience – Kaye. From the day I arrived it was made clear UC Berkeley is a “research institution” …. And so be it.. that is the goal.

    Meeting and briefly working for Kaye was a welcome breath of humanity. Kaye was such a humble yet extremely intelligent person

    I think the term became popular at least a decade later, but I can imagine Kaye really appreciating the term “whatever” in her private moments… She must have dealt with so much red tape at UC, yet her intelligence and resolve could make each student feel like a “person” and not just another student caught up in the vast academic mayhem. We were all so very fortunate to have Kaye, as someone who really cared about people and was brilliant enough to see through the UC maze.

    Thank you so very, very much Kaye.
    With the warmest thoughts and hugs to your family.

  87. Wicak Sarosa Says:

    It was really shocking to me to learned about the departure of our beloved Kaye Bock. I will never forget her kindness and assistance throughout my study at DCRP and even afterward. She was one of the most wonderful persons in my life (and in this world, I think). From Indonesia, I would like to express my deepest sadness and condolence to her family (which I think is bigger than we all know; it’s all over the world).

    May her soul rest in peace.

    Wicaksono Sarosa
    Jakarta — Indonesia

  88. Rajeev Bhatia Says:

    More than anyone else, Kaye was instrumental in helping me settle into DCRP more than 20 years ago. She time and again navigated the absurdities and complexities of bureaucracy with a smile and a human touch. You felt that she cared. Kaye continued to be helpful over the years, going beyond her role as student advisor, staying in touch and directing graduating students to job opportunities at our office. Kaye, you can take pride and joy in knowing you made a tremendous difference in the lives of so many of us.

  89. Elizabeth Macdonald Says:

    Like so many other students, the first person I talked to at DCRP was Kaye. The warm and personal welcome she gave me played a big role in my decision to come to Berkeley. She has been one of my main touchstones at CED ever since, a friend to laugh and sometimes cry with, a guide through the UC maze, a constant voice of support, someone I could always count on for a big smile and a hug.

    With Kaye’s death, I find myself thinking of her as a great teacher whose lessons I have experienced and witnessed but now must try to truly understand. With a gentle yet firm hand Kaye gathered us all into a community, worked hard to make sure everyone was given opportunities, individually encouraged each of us to do our best and believe in ourselves, and tried to get all of us to see and celebrate the best in each other and be forgiving of each others quirks or failings.

    Kaye, thank you for everything you have given to me. I love you and I miss you so much. I shall try to keep seeing your smile in the halls of Wurster and to carry on your spirit.

    Be at peace.

  90. Lilia Medina, AICP Says:

    Kaye, the guiding light at Wurster Hall. Thank you/gracias for providing me with your smart insights along the path towards achieving my degree. Your unconditional support made my two years at Berkeley a joyous and memorable time in my life. May your spirit shine forever. Peace to you and your loved ones.

  91. Christie McCarthy Says:

    I’ve sat down several times to try and write about Kaye, but it isn’t coming. I guess the feeling is just “stunned”.

    Co-workers are in many senses like family: we take them for granted, expect them to be there when we need them, and bask in the warmth and comfort of the easy camaraderie developed over years. And when in the beat of a heart that connection is broken, we only hope that she knew how much she meant to all of us. Hoping she knew that she was the gold standard for tolerance, integrity and patience.

    What a loss.

  92. Chione Flegal Says:

    Kaye, you were my friend, my inspiration and my guiding light. I carry your beautiful spirit with me and strive to share it as you shared it with me and with so many others. Thank you for everything you gave to me, to our DCRP community and to the world, we are better having shared life with you. I love you and miss you.

  93. Jim Maney Says:

    Forty-odd years ago I was a classmate of Kaye’s at the University of Dallas. We dated for two years, for a time very seriously. That did not work out for reasons no longer relevant, but we remained close through the ensuing years that became decades. When I married years later, she and my wife became instant friends, and she mourned with me when Lana died far too young.
    I would see Kaye in later years when business or pleasure brought me to the Bay Area. We would have dinner at her favorite spot, His Lordships in the Berkeley Marina, with a magnificent view of The City and the Golden Gate. Each visit was as though we had been apart for only days, not months or years. I cherish those times for the closeness we shared, the memories of the years in Dallas {only those of a certain age can recall what it was like to be there on a November afternoon in 1963}, and the way the events of our lives, for good and for ill, seemed to mesh together even after all the years and all the miles.
    When we were dating, we were very fond of Lerner and Loewe’s Camelot. Kaye’s life truly was “one brief shining moment” and I for one won’t “let it be forgot.”
    Godspeed gentle lady.

  94. Faustina Says:

    I first spoke to Kaye on the phone and met her once at the DCRP open house.She was a friendly person who made anyone feel at home,especially to people like me who are miles away from home.I am shocked to learn about her passing.May she rest in peace.

  95. Donald F Nelson Says:

    I first met Kaye during freshman orientation
    while we were both about to start our college
    careers at The University of Dallas in September
    of 1962. She and I had numerous classes together and after graduation we talked
    several times on the telephone when she came to visit her family while she was going to
    graduate school at Marquette. I will always
    remember her as a delightful individual who
    always had something good to say about someone.
    Requiescat in Pace
    Donald F Nelson

  96. Tim Rood Says:

    As everyone does, I feel lucky to have known Kaye. I will remember how warm and happy to see me she was whenever I wandered in to her office for help with some bureaucratic hurdle. Kaye was really the heart and soul of DCRP, and no one can really ever fill those shoes – so I guess it’s up to the rest of us to show a little Kaye to each other each day and keep her good karma going.

  97. Karen Chapple Says:

    DCRP’s heart has been wrenched out. Kaye touched all of our lives, and always for the better. At last, she’s not worrying about any of us. It feels very strange.

    If we all gave endlessly like she did, the world would be an amazing place.

    One of the many lessons I take from her life is the importance of laughter and forgetting. Much of Kaye’s worklife was spent dealing patiently with very difficult people. I spent hours commiserating with her about a few faculty members and students who occasionally made her life a living hell. I would conjure up elaborate revenge fantasies on her behalf, and Kaye would laugh and laugh with me. But then she would confide that she was about to repay them not with revenge but with yet another favor. Her capacity for forgiveness was endless.

  98. Carmen Wong-Hsu Says:

    I just graduated from DCRP in May 2006 and I already miss school. Much of fond memories of school come from Kaye, who organized every event, reserved every classroom, processed each application and most importantly, remembers everyone’s name who came through her door. It is so easy to get lost in the Berkeley Campus, but Kaye made Berkeley personal. She always welcomed me into her office despite the n-th time i forgot to follow the instructions to file my papers.

    I will always miss Kaye. Her generosity with her time and dedication to her post will be an example for me to follow.

  99. Charles Rivasplata Says:

    Kaye was truly one of the most kind, upbeat and down-to-earth persons that I have known. As so many of my fellow graduates of the DCRP program of the past twenty plus years or so, I was lucky enough to have known Kaye and to have corresponded with her over the years, since entering the program in 1987.

    Over the years, there were a few rough times, emotionally, when Kaye was there to encourage me and to offer some wonderful advice. She made those difficult moments so much easier. Whenever I came back for a visit, Kaye always had time to greet me — as if I had never left.

    Kaye was a very generous and caring person. After I finished my Ph.D. at UC-Davis last year, I again visited Kaye to say hello. She provided me with wonderful leads for pursuing an academic position in the U.S. This was above and beyond anything that I ever expected. Fortunately for me, I was in that DCRP family that Kaye always maintained.

    My condolences go out to Kaye’s family. I have faith that they will gradually feel better, while always keeping their mother’s memory alive. Kaye will forever remain in the hearts of those of us that knew her. She taught us all so much.

  100. Eleanor Mayer Says:

    Kaye was so kind, and it was (without a doubt) her encouragement that helped me decide to choose Berkeley and that same warmth that made it enjoyable place to be once I got to DCRP. Her passing is shocking, but a testament to a really really well lived life and for that I am comforted.

  101. Armando Xavier Mejia Says:

    It is with great sadness that I write these words. Kaye’s passing has left a deep emptiness within me. Indeed, it was only a few weeks ago when I spoke with her on the phone and email her to share my appreciation for all the support and encouragement she gave me while I completed my MCP degree. I also let her know that I would be stopping by her office to say “hello” and take care of some administrative matters with her assistance in early 2007…….how sad that I will no longer be able to see her, and be there to hear her latest update on the department, her family, etc. Our department and the hallls of Wurster Hall will never feel and be the same without Kaye’s smile and warm presence. As we honor Kaye’s memories, let us remember her patience, dedication, and all the love and support she shared with each of us. In my heart, and for the rest of my life, she will have a unique and special place. Thank you Kaye, for all you were and for the goodness and love you shared with us. We were all touched by your presence, and were fortunate to know you. May she be blessed for all her good deeds, and rest in peace. With much love.

  102. Alecia Robinson Says:

    Kaye managed to touch the lives of every single person at DCRP with her genuine kindness, open door, and open heart. I am happy to have known her.

  103. Brad Goya Says:

    Kaye was one of the major reasons I came to Cal for grad school. As an undergrad I thought Berkeley was too big. I found professors to be distant and difficult to establish real connections with. I was worried that the same would be true at the graduate level.

    But Kaye showed me the other side of Berkeley. She was helpful, down-to-earth, humble, and easy to talk to. There was no pretense with Kaye. She didn’t have time for falsities – she was too busy helping people.

    There are a lot of lessons to be learned from Kaye. She kept it real; and she walked the walk. These life lessons will be part of her enduring legacy.

    May she rest in peace.

  104. Hiroshi Nishimaki Says:

    When I called DCRP from Harvard at the time of applying to the PhD program, Kaye answered the phone. There was unique warmth in her tone. We had a couple of laughs over the phone for something silly that I asked about.

    Before I left Boston, Kaye advised me on tight housing situation in Berkeley and suggested that I may camp out in one of those parks until I
    find a proper place. So I bought and packed a camping set in my car and headed west. After one year in the program, I became a refugee of the Oakland Fire. Of course Kaye organized a
    charity for me including clothing for the upcoming winter.

    After advancing to candidacy in PhD, I spent almost seven years without really writing a thing. Kaye kept me on board during my stray years somehow. Then I received a letter
    from the University saying that my eligibility was expiring in a semester or so. Panicked, I called up Kaye. Calmly she said “Do not worry. There was another guy who was away for some 15 years and came back one day for filing.” Assured and more committed, I went back to Berkeley and finished the thesis. Kaye navigated me through administrative maize. In the end Kaye instructd me to register one day before the end of the semester and pay the
    tuition for filing. I followed her order and graduated. Without Kaye, I may not have gone to Berkeley and definitely I would not have gotten the degree. What is more important, she made the process somewhat enjoyable with her
    special character.

    I feel I am indebted to her for ever.

  105. John Banks Says:

    I was shocked and saddened to hear of Kaye’s passing. While working with her a few years back, I was so often in awe of her ability to play department mother to so many students, always sincerely caring, willing to find loopholes when needed, doing whatever was required to make sure that a student’s path was as clear of obstacles as possible. She was the most caring listener I have ever known, always having the time for anyone who knocked at her door. Kaye will always be a shining part of my memory of DCRP. Rest in peace, Kaye.

  106. Victor Rubin Says:

    I can’t begin to imagine DCRP without her. Kaye unfailingly combined a enormously kind and generous nature, infinite patience, and great skill and judgment in making DCRP work for the students. On paper, we created a lot of formal systems and structures to show the outside world how we chose students for fellowships, how we placed students in internships; how we were striving to create a more diverse planning profession. But really, none of that formal stuff mattered at a deep level, for when you come right down to it, all I ever really relied on to make those calls was Kaye. She knew well and cared deeply about every student before they were even a picture on the wall. She could unerringly assess their interests, talents, needs and personalities and how they would fare in different situations. And because she cared so much, she could also, more than anyone, help them see how to do the right thing, if they needed that kind of counsel. And of course, she helped me in all those ways as a student, more than 20 years ago. I will miss her deeply.

  107. Anonymous Says:

    I am not so certain that I would have gotten it together to complete my application to DCRP and become an urban planner had Kaye Bock not been such a guiding source of support and enthusiasm throughout the admissions process.

    Then, once I got in the door into DCRP, her generosity of spirit and time only contined during my two years at Wurster. Kaye’s recent passing is deeply upsetting for so many reasons. I wish that just once over the happy ten years since my graduation, I had paused to write Kaye and thank her personally for everything she did for me.

    I am deeply sad for the many future generations at DCRP who will never know her kindness and intelligence, and the way that she firmly established the entire tone of the DCRP experience even before you walked through the door….

  108. Madeleine Zayas-Mart Says:

    During all the years I spent at UC Berkeley, first as an undergraduate in Architecture and then as a graduate student in the joint degree program (planning and architecture), no one else made me feel at home as much as Kaye Bock. She welcomed me to the department from the very start with her warm smile and caring nature. She always supported and encouraged my interests in urban design, and never doubted my potential contribution to the profession. She had that ability to make one feel so special. She was always available for us students, no matter how busy she was. She took the time, no matter how hot and difficult her days were. Her door was always open.

    With time, she started using me as a resource and asked me to get involved with student outreach activities. When Kaye asked for it, it had to get done, because I had no excuse to give her. How could one say no to Kaye, when all she ever did was do for us.

    She was a stalwart of diversity. She truly believed in making this world a better and more just world for everyone, those values that have brought so many of us together. And she lived her values too.

    The last time I saw Kaye was at the Student Job Fair last year. She pulled me aside, and with application in hand, asked me to be part of the mentor program. That is just like Kaye, she took every opportunity to help others. Today I want to commit to becoming a CED mentor in the name of Kaye Bock.

    Kaye, you are an amazing individual and I am so honored to have been part of your family. You were like a second mother and friend to me I will always carry your caring nature and sense of justice in my heart.

  109. Brian Sands, MCP '92, AICP Says:

    Such sad news…Kaye played a strong positive role in my entering DCRP and my subsequent experience there. She obviously had the same impact on many others and she will be greatly missed. I am heartened though by the great outpouring of emotion by so many people – it reminds me of why I entered planning, enjoyed my time at the department and UC Berkeley so much, and why I continue to work in the field of planning. My thoughts and heart go out to Kaye, her family, and her many colleagues and friends.

  110. Cheryl Parker Says:

    My memories of Kaye are less of a personal nature. I never had much, if any, interaction with her. She was so busy taking care of everyone and everything, that I didn’t want to burden her with anything else. However, as I sit and reflect and read through the many things she did for everyone, I think I finally know the answer to a question I’ve had for many years. One year, I received a small, but very helpful, grant. I never knew where it came from. I never asked for it, nor did I apply for it… it just magically appeared when I needed it most. Now I think I know the answer. Our guardian angel, Kaye, somehow knew and then quietly sent it my way. She was a woman who moved through this world with humility, grace and the utmost integrity and can only serve as a model for all of us to aspire to.

  111. Rana Tomaira Says:

    Dearest Kaye,

    Thank you for everything you’ve done for me. I’m glad our lives have crossed and I got to know you. I’ll miss you deeply.



  112. Jess Wendover Says:

    The world would be a better place if we could all always be as good as Kaye Bock believed us to be.

  113. Karen Martinsen Upton UD '66 Says:

    I first met Kaye when we were both freshmen at UD. We lived near each other in southeast Dallas county. I remember many a Sunday night drive back to campus after a weekend at home. I also remember many a late night working on term papers. She was a friend.

    From reading the many memories of Kaye, she touched many lives with love and caring. Her family must be very proud of her and miss her very much.

    Her life was too short, but what an impact she made!

  114. David Arkin Says:

    Dearest Kaye; nary a waking hour has gone by since I learned of her passing that thoughts of her have not crossed my mind. Of course, saddened and shaken at first, I now smile, thinking of her smile. What a supreme gift she is to us all—blessed to have known her—and have learned by her example the lesson of kindness above all, to all, always. Exponential and growing goodness from her having walked this earth.

  115. Lesley Watson, MCP '85 Says:

    Although I have not been under Kaye’s wings for over 20 years, I feel the same deep loss at her passing as so many others have expressed.

    Kaye joined DCRP in 1984 when I was a student in the MCP program. Her warmth and availability made her a natural fit with grad students, many far from home, overwhelmed by work, thwarted in love….whatever. Kaye was always ready with a listening ear and a word of encouragement.

    Kaye’s own personal situation was not always easy, but this never prevented her from supporting others. She bore witness to her faith in every way. Yes, her office was a mess, but the door was always open. I remember her young children in her office or down in the cafeteria, doing homework or just hanging out until mom was ready to go home. I am sure she had some long days but she never complained about her situation.

    Fifteen years after I had left Berkeley I was visiting the Bay Area and made a trip over to Wurster Hall. How delighted I was to find Kaye just where I left her–in her messy office with the door open. What a wonderful reunion! Kaye and I reminisced about her early years at DCRP, recalling the names and situations of many of my classmates and exchanging details to fill in the gaps about the lives of those we kept in touch with.

    Kaye, you were a blessing in the lives of so many students. What a privilege to have been one of them.

  116. Wally Bock Says:

    We, Kaye’s family, thank all of you for your messages, your concern, your help and offers of help and your expressions of love for Kaye. The overflowing church for the Memorial Service and the outpouring of memories on this site are only two examples of actions that make this time easier for us. Thank you.

  117. Brad Wiblin Says:

    My first recollection of DCRP includes a 3 minute interaction with Kaye that, with the benefit of hindsight, had a profound impact on the arc of my life. I was considering applying to the MCP program and wanted to take a single course to validate my interest. I had a class and instructor selected (mostly because it fit my work schedule). I asked Kaye for her advice on the subject and with only the barest of information about my goals (a person she had just met), she said to me “forget about the class you have selected, you need to take John Landis’ affordable housing course”. Needless to say I heeded her advice and not only did that one course lead to a career in affordable housing development, but it is also where I met my wife (Judy Riffle, Haas 94), who was also taking a single course at DCRP. Once in the MCP program, I did not require much from Kaye in the form of guidance or support – with her help I knew that I had already found my way.
    Thank you Kaye.

  118. Terri Hansen Payne Says:

    I owe my career to Kaye. The first time I talked to her I had run into an administrative road block and had been told no by numerous university representatives. I called Kaye and with no hesitation, without knowing me, she said it was no problem and she would help me work it out. Then she did just that! She always had a positive ‘can do’ attitude that made you feel anything was possible. Her passing is a huge loss to the department and her family. She will be missed.

  119. Bruce A. Fukuji Says:

    For those of you who did not have a chance to attend, here are a few highlights from
    Kaye’s standing room only memorial service at her church, Grace Lutheran, a few blocks
    from the Richmond BART station on the edge of downtown. Seeing the church itself, the
    surrounding neighborhood, and diverse community of parishioners said more about her
    heart than saying any words.

    Kaye’s pastor said that Kaye’s wish was to be a minister, and in her daily life she was
    — kind, loving, open, caring, devoted. In the face of the power of the university, she
    was a constant flow of mercy, comparing her to Mary, mother of Jesus, her door always
    open and giving to everyone.

    John Landis was quite eloquent and with great humor, recalled his 20 years of friendship
    with Kaye and how much she taught him about life, and about kindness. He realized the
    disorder in her office wasn’t disorder at all, it was creating as many places as
    possible for her to post pictures of her family and loved ones. He spoke of learning
    how to tell hard things to people in a loving way. After reviewing so many admissions
    applications, John felt he could tell right-off the top what applicants were about,
    however Kaye would read between the lines and bring them back for a second, third and
    even fourth chance; and as a computer wiz, how she could work the system, ‘bending time’
    by sending emails that people received before they were sent to meet graduate division
    deadlines after they had past.

    Allan Jacobs, who hired Kaye, spoke of how profoundly remarkable it is that everyone has
    such positive, warm feelings towards Kaye he has never met anyone else who can claim
    that. He realized the reason why the admissions process took so agonizingly long, was
    that Kaye was stretching it out so that prospective students she felt should be in the
    program had all the opportunity they needed to get in. Of the thousands of applicants,
    Kaye never mis-judged character, she knew every student, their background, what they
    needed, and where they we going. She made sure that everyone got their degrees. She
    organized job fairs to get students jobs. He felt that she should have been hired as the
    community development faculty person, she knew and could teach more about building
    community than anyone else. However Kaye did not really know how to take care of
    herself, and in that is a lesson for everyone.

    Kaye saw the highest in each of us, loved us and gave us everything, with great
    confidence, kindness and generosity. As an adopted child, she adopted us all in her
    family and created the heart of our community. May her spirit live in our hearts
    throughout the years.

  120. A Fillon Says:

    The first time I met Kaye I had wandered into her office seeking some info on the joint Arch DCRP program. I didn’t know much about it and I wasn’t really sure if I was cut out for it. We talked for a few minutes and she decided I needed to apply. I was handed applications and forms and given a list of looming deadlines and sent on my way. Once in the program, Kaye was a continual source of encouragement and a true friend. For many of us, and I know for me at least, she was the soul of the department.
    It is a rare and special person that can have such a profound positive influence on so many lives. Kaye was one of those people. We will all miss her.

  121. Christy Herron Says:

    Kaye was already my friend before I started at DCRP, and she was my friend and shepherd throughout my time in grad school. Oh God, what a fabulous lady. I owe her a debt of gratitude and wish I could pay. In lieu of that, I am listening to country music (she liked Alan Jackson) and remembering my friend.

  122. Anonymous Says:

    If someone handed me a batch of clay and asked me to mold it into the nicest, most genuine person that I could imagine, it would be Kaye.

    Not many people with whom you’ve exchanged probably only several hundred words in your life have that kind of impact on you.

  123. Manish Shirgaokar Says:

    Reading through the sentiments people have expressed on this page, I am deeply moved.

    Like so many other, I distinctly remember the first time I met Kaye. I had been in the United States for a mere few weeks trying to adjust to a new place and people, and had been encouraged by so many to apply to the Dual. Prof. Comerio from Architecture had walked me across from Architecture to City Planning, and the first person I interacted with, in the planning community, was Kaye.

    Being international, the pressure of financing a single graduate degree was stress enough. But Kaye and her encouragement was enough to make me take the next step.

    I also remember talking to Kaye sometime in late November 2004, on a day (not unlike many others) when she was severely overworked. CED had moved from the “shack” to the “building”. I went in to tell Kaye goodbye – I was returning back to consulting in India. But I warned her to not write me off, since I might return to DCRP for a PhD someday. She, of course, smiled in her usual way and said, “Well, you won’t be the first one to return back.”

    So two years since that event, I got in touch with her again, and we started work on the PhD applications. The process got done in time, all sewn together with Kaye’s apologies for being late on some emails.

    Then I heard that she was gone…

    I had anticipated meeting her soon, but that will never be…

    We take so many things for granted in our busy lives. When the best things are gone, we feel saddened that we never turned around and said thank you Kaye.

    DCRP will never be the same for so me, as for so many others who knew Kaye.

    I’m not a very religious person. But I know that Kaye is in a better place, because she will live on in all our collective memories as a positive experience to be cherished and shared.

  124. Kathy MacClelland Says:

    Involved in another career fair, I was not able to attend Kaye’s funeral but was able to join the improptu gathering in the Wurster Library.

    I first got to know Kaye when she attended the Graduate School Fairs wearing her Admissions hat. The Career Center was flattered and honored when Kaye proposed a partnership between CED and the Career Center to present the annual CED Job Fair. The CED Job Fair was literally “her baby,’ and had grown so successful that it was too much on her already too full plate. The week before her death, Kaye forwarded a list of alumni/employer contacts she had gathered to be sure they were invited to the 2007 Fair.

    Sitting next to Kaye through the last few CED Job Fairs, I saw first hand how much she loved and was loved by students and alumni. She literally “held court,” accepting hugs, family updates from alumni, and some gossip. At the same time, she dispensed advice and direction to students, alumni and faculty as they arrived. She would draw attention to particular employers students should contact. When she knew a student was especially shy or nervous, she would personally escort them into the fair to make introductions.

    In my many years on this campus, I’ve known dedicated student advisors, none more wonderful than Kaye. In one of the first emails I received about her death, a mutual friend wrote “She was a good soul.” Amen.

  125. Alex lantsberg Says:

    I found out about Kaye’s death when I ran into an old classmate at the SF Planning Dept and am disappointed I couldn’t pay my last respects in person. The service sounded wonderful and worthy of the love that Kaye had for DCRP and the people who made it what it is.

    I don’t think I can add any particular thought that isn’t already expressed here, but I do wish to add another anecdote of her creative ways with the bureaucracy.

    I was quite disappointed when my application to the graduate program was rejected. Kaye was quite frank – great scores, experience, and recommendations, but your undergraduate history didn’t inspire the admissions committee’s confidence in your ability do the work. She offered a suggestion that I reapply, but this time with a few classes through ‘concurrent enrollment’ under my belt. As further evidence of her deviousness, she suggested that I take classes taught by members of the admissions committee. I proceeded to take her advice and lucked out even more when it turned out that the two students I chatted with most during breaks were also members of the committee. Needless to say, the plan worked and the second time was a charm.

    The Department, and most of all the students who continually refresh it will miss this irreplaceable treasure.

  126. Austin Brown Says:

    Chapel Hill, NC–I am a graduate of the Department of City and Regional Planning at the University of North Carolina Chapel Hill and have been on subscribed to the list Ms. Bock’s ran for about 1.5 years. I never had the fortune of meeting her in person but every interaction I had with her via email was addressed with a high level of professionalism. I found her moderation of the list and postings very helpful, especially for someone trying to find employment on the west coast while living 3 time zones away. The Planning Department at UC Berkeley lost a good one.

    As I read through some of the other 125 postings dedicated to Ms. Bock I couldn’t help but wonder if some of them will be shared with her family.

  127. Bruce G. Sloan, AIA Says:

    Arch ’64
    Having been involved with the Mentorship program from the beginning, I can say, without a doubt, that the program would not have been as successful were it not for Kaye.
    She is sorely missed.

  128. Catherine Xinyuan Yang Says:

    I graduated from the Department of City and Regional Planning at Cornell University, and yet, Kaye made me feel a part of the UCB planning community. I have known Kaye since 2002 through one of my close friends who got her Ph.D from the DCRP at Berkeley. Since then, I often received Kaye’s helpful and thoughtful advice while I was taking planning classes at UCB in 2003 and 2005. I also heard so much respectful comments and stories about her from my advisor at Cornell and from other friends at Berkeley. I am so grateful and fortunate to have been helped by such a wonderful, warm, and caring person.

  129. Christia Mulvey, MCP '01 (technically, '02) Says:

    When I first read the sad news that the dear and wonderful Kaye Bock had died last month, I could not remember what the “A” in her “SAO” title stood for.

    The first word that came to mind was “Advocate,” and though that’s not actually what the “A” stands for, “Advocate” is a wonderfully apt way to describe Kaye.

    I’ll treasure her calm, “we’re just going to get it done” attitude, which helped see me (and a few others, it seems) through dealing with the immense UC bureaucracy to get residency, work on the job fair and finally get my PR completed and filed (only a year and a half after I’d walked).

    She was a wonderful, warm and welcoming presence, and the department and world are a lot brighter places because of her. My love and condolences to her family and friends, and thanks to you for sharing her with us.

  130. Hiba Bou Akar Says:

    Dearest Kaye, I very much miss having you around. Wurster is not the same without your warmth. I deeply thank you for all the help you have given me since day one at school. I will never forget your sweet smile…Thank you for everything!

  131. Joan Douglas, AICP Says:

    I am the Chapter Director of the San Francisco Bay Area Chapter of the Association of Environmental Professionals. I have known Kaye for about four years, but unfortunately we never met face to face. She would miraculously put me in touch with several students who wanted to volunteer at our CEQA workshops that we hold each year. I am so indebted to her graciousness and responsiveness to my requests. (Usually within a half hour of my emailed request, I would have 5 or 6 fantastic volunteers committed.) I could only imagine the lengths and effort she would go to to help students.

    I so wish I had made the time to meet her and thank her inperson for this. She would be one of the people, of anyone in the world, that I would invite to a dinner party.

    Kaye, I will miss you and know that you will always be remembered by the members of AEP. Peace to you in your new journey…

  132. Zhu Tian Says:

    Dear Kaye:

    I am a student from China. Though I do not know whether I will be accepted and go to berkeley to see you sleeping peacefully there, I will always remember you as that nice lady who helped me and wished me good luck.

    I think a “thank you” would never be late.

  133. Sarah Ferris '06 Says:

    Ugh. It hurts my heart. She was my hero, and I miss her dearly.

  134. Amit Sarin Says:

    I am a prospective student for Berkeley DCRP and knew Kaye only briefly through emails and phone calls regarding the department. Still, in all our interactions, Kaye’s generosity, caring, helpful and loving character shone brightly. I am sorry to find out about this loss; my prayers go out to all those who knew her dearly and her family. May she rest in peace.

  135. Francis Frick Says:

    Kaye’s perennial warmth redeems her misunderstanding of me and my work, a misunderstanding complicated by Gail Brager from CED’s Architecture Department in November 1994 and much of 1995, which made for an historcially documented experience ultimately mitigated by intervention of the late UCB President Chang Lin Tien and the Graduate Schoold Dean on my behalf. I am sure Kaye sees the balanced and fair truth more clearly now, and remains as warm as she was on earth.

    Francis Frick, CED/Architecture 1992-1994(6)

  136. Deb Says:

    I miss you mommy!

  137. Tasha Says:

    Kaye was a truly wonderful, amazing and generous woman. She was always there for anyone who needed her at any given time. I will deeply miss her and I regret not staying in touch w/her over the years. I met her daughter in 1991 in high school when I first met Kaye she welcomed me w/open arms she was the kind of woman that I hope to be. And my heart and love goes out to Deb, Dave and Di I know they need it now more than ever. Even though I lost touch w/them I’ve always thought about them. I love you guys.

  138. Satyaki Raghunath Says:

    Kaye is the first person I think of when I remember my time at the CED. She was such an integral part of all our lives at Cal – warm, friendly, incredibly supportive and always so positive. We’ll miss her. RIP Kaye.

  139. Duane De Witt Says:

    Often I find myself thinking of Kaye, especially when I run across a note from her or a reminder of our frequent conversations over the last few years. Today is such a day as I thought of the peaceful respite her office was for me from the bureaucracy that is CAL.

    The last couple of years she was at the DCRP she had the following saying posted on her wall near the computer monitor she spent so much time looking at for work.


    Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
    and remember what peace there may be in silence.
    As far as possible without surrender
    be on good terms with all persons.
    Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
    and listen to others,
    even the dull and the ignorant;
    they too have their story.

    Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
    they are vexations to the spirit.
    If you compare yourself with others,
    you may become vain and bitter;
    for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
    Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.

    Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
    it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
    Exercise caution in your business affairs;
    for the world is full of trickery.
    But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
    many persons strive for high ideals;
    and everywhere life is full of heroism.

    Be yourself.
    Especially, do not feign affection.
    Neither be cynical about love;
    for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
    it is as perennial as the grass.

    Take kindly the counsel of the years,
    gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
    Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
    But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
    Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
    Beyond a wholesome discipline,
    be gentle with yourself.

    You are a child of the universe,
    no less than the trees and the stars;
    you have a right to be here.
    And whether or not it is clear to you,
    no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

    Therefore be at peace with God,
    whatever you conceive Him to be,
    and whatever your labors and aspirations,
    in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.

    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
    it is still a beautiful world.
    Be cheerful.
    Strive to be happy.

    Max Ehrmann, Desiderata,

    I graduate in May and I so wanted her to be there so I could thank her for the great gifts of her friendship she gave to me. This website will be my touchstone with her so I hope it will be kept open long into the future.
    Thanks again Kaye!

  140. aditi rao Says:

    dear kaye,

    i just wanted to let you know that a team of five of us just won the ULI urban design competition. i know if you were with us here, you’d be our biggest cheerleader, and you’d be so, so proud of us.

    when we found out that we were finalists, you were one of the first people i wanted to tell. before my advisors and professors, all those people i’m supposed to want to impress. you were one of the only people in wurster who understood me and believed in me from day one. i’ve had some difficult times during my years here, but you were ALWAYS there, understanding me even better than i understood myself.

    kaye, this win is absolutely for you. we miss you so much. you live on forever in our hearts.

    with love,

  141. Sky Dufaux Says:


    You were a light in the darkness,
    A warm embrace in a confusing world.

    You called others to greatness,
    With a firm hand and a sweet heart.

    You created community,
    And spurned no one.

    You were an example for all us.
    We will treasure your memory until the end of days.

  142. David Says:


    I think I speak for all graduating students when I say that I wish we could have shared graduation with you. I know you’ll be there, though, and I know you’re proud of us.

    You had a natural ability to give people the benefit of the doubt, to see the best in people, and to credit them for the good they did. You saw uniqueness in everyone. That is an ability I hope to foster in myself thanks to your example. It won’t come as naturally.

    I am lucky to have known you and to have considered you a friend. You were stern but sweet when you needed to be. You reminded me to let things go. You always made me feel like you would make time for me, and anyone else who came to you for help. You were a gift to DCRP and to everyone who knew you.

    We’ll all remember you during graduation. Our accomplishments are yours.


  143. Chuck Setchell (MCP '80) Says:

    Today, 21 May, when many DCRP students are about to graduate, I learned of Kaye’s passing.

    I just finished sending an e-mail to someone elsewhere on campus as part of work, and thought I’d check out the DCRP website after not doing so for a such a very long time. It was only then that I learned of the sad news — and many tributes — on the site.

    I graduated from DCRP before Kaye’s arrival, but she touched my life in perhaps one of the most profound ways imaginable. I was living with two DCRP housemates in Rockridge in 1985, and we decided to help out a CED grad student by offering our extra room at a very low rent. I worked with Kaye to post a notice at DCRP, and she was instrumental in helping us sort through the many inquiries. She helped make a good choice, for we selected, Kathryn Landis, a grad student from the Landscape Architecture Dept. Although she moved out after a short time because she found her own place, Kathy and I have been together since 1985.

    In light of the sad news of Kaye’s passing, I’m so happy that I was able to introduce our oldest to Kaye a few years back, and thank her for helping me find a Housemate For Life. I still recall the wonderful smile on her face when I said thanks. I, and we, will miss her dearly.

  144. Tovah Says:

    I just found out about Kaye’s passing and first was in shock but have been bawling ever since.

    Everything about her many extraordinary qualities has already been said, eloquently and touchingly, by my DCRP colleagues from years before and after my time there (1989-91). Those were some of the most difficult years of my life personally — and I found a soulmate in Kaye as we shared some struggles and provided support for each other. She had given me so, so much when I was a student; as an alumna and friend I was honored and touched to be able to be a source for her.

    It’s true that Kaye put a loving, supportive human face on Berkeley, but her gifts transcend Wurster Hall, the Bay Area, or wherever else her students now find themselves. It’s no exaggeration to say that I think of Kaye nearly every week with the deepest affection. I hope the last sixteen years brought her joy, contentment, and fulfillment.

    To Kaye’s family — especially Diana, who I remember as a miniature Kaye popping in and out of her office — I wish I had a magic wand to take away your pain. I see that months have gone by since most of these entries were written. I hope in that time that you have begun healing on the path of recovery.

    Some souls in this universe are forever around to light the way for us all. Kaye will never be gone. Be well.

  145. Duane De Witt Says:

    kaye set up the Diversity Day oureach activites for the Department of City Planning in the past and now new efforts will go forward in her memory.
    I am pleased I was able to learn from Kaye and assist Kaye in some of her efforts to make Wurster Hall a better place for students. Now students and alumni from the DCRP can continue her work with her in mind.
    Along with “Go Bears” from my CAL experience I will always think “Go Kaye” also.
    All the best to you diverse group of folks who knew Kaye.

  146. Debbie Says:

    Hey Mama,

    Can you believe that Martin & I have been married 10 yrs???
    It’s hard because I know that you will not be calling today…another marker in the year of firsts.
    I miss you more than words can say. I wish so often that I could call you and tell you about my day.
    I hope that you can see us and know how much you were loved and how much you are missed.
    I love you mommy!

  147. Ian Griffiths Says:

    Kaye, when I think of you I remember what the important things in life are, and I want to be a better person. Thank you for everything you have done for us.

  148. Debbie Says:

    A year ago today you did not wake up.
    The last time we spoke you didn’t tell me that you weren’t feeling well. Not that I would have been able to get you to go to the doctor, or that even if you had that they would have been able to stop this from happening.
    A year ago today I got home from work and Dad called, he asked me if I could talk…sure I said…just making dinner, Martin was at school…and then I was on the floor. I couldn’t stand up. I couldn’t take a breath.
    A year ago today you didn’t wake up.
    The year of firsts is now over which I thought some how would make this easier. But today it just seems that we are starting a year of 2nds.
    I miss you Mama.
    I hope that you can see me and my boys. We think of you often. I still cry often, but then again I wouldn’t be you daughter if I didn’t. 🙂

  149. Karen C. Says:


    Thinking of you today, one year later. I miss you SOOOOOOOOOOO much.

    Today should be about making somebody feel like a million dollars, like you did every day.

  150. sandra Says:

    I prepared myself to reach out to your always welcoming arms..I hadn’t in so long..I thought it was a good time. I would call sometimes..the same number since i remember..but I hadn’t the courage..for who knows what reason nothing would come out…maybe I had too much in… I knew for sure I had to apologize…but for a long time thats all I had…I knew you expected more from me so I knew I had to have my life in order to not dissapoint you…maybe I was dissapointed in myself..because you did so much for me…how could I come to you with nothing in hand…I knew that was not an option.looking back..Imissed you..all of you..the kids remember “piglet” and their wrestling adventures..I can’t tell them yet. I cant bring myself to actually say it….I am glad you didn’t see me struggle I know you would’ve been worried…

    I wish now that I could tell you everything worked out.We are still married and even though we struggled,we are good now.We actually have a good marriage.You wouldn’t have to worry about me anymore.I got myself a good job doing exactly what I wanted to do all along.(I know you know what that means)

    I wish I would’ve gone to see you earlier and told you how much you will always mean to me.You are so much of the reason I am where I am. LUV ALWAYS

  151. Diana Says:

    Momma, I miss you more thant you could ever know. So many times I have needed you to guide me, so I did hopefully what you would have thought was right. I’m almost done with my first year of college, and I’m going to be a social worker. I want to help people the way you helped so many people. Some days I miss you so much I feel like my heart is missing. Love you!

  152. Emmy Says:

    Debbie and I used to come to your office after school to say hello. …… I am very sad.
    I just want to tell that I will miss you.
    I love you Kaye.

  153. Staci Says:

    I did not know Kaye, but I am very close to Debbie. Debbie is a wonderful soul and we have bonded over the last 5-6 years through working together.

    We are a surrogate family and look out for eachother here in Colorado, We made the leap from California when they transfered our claims operation here to Colorado.

    I was with Debbie and Di the day after Kaye died and what I experienced was two lost little girls. It was so sad to watch and this last year and a half has been difficult for all three of her children.

    I never understood the depth of thier pain, until May 25th 2008 when I recieved the same terrible and terrifying call from my father regarding my Mother.

    I called Debbie right away because I knew she could help me understand and help me get a grip on things. I could barely tie my shoes that morning.

    Thank goodness for Debbie- she was a there to help, but I could see the pain in her eyes as we reflected in on eachothers pain.

    I have a feeling Debbie has the same heart and determination that Kaye exemplifies- Your postings are mirror images of a young Kaye(Debbie).

    Thank you Kaye for having such a wonderful daughter whom I consider more of a spiritual sister than a friend.

    By the way I LOVE YOUR GRANDSONS-THEY ROCK. God bless you and your family. May the angels guide you to your next life and may you all be reuinted again someday.

  154. Duane D. Says:

    Yes indeed, Kaye is a “Rocking Angel” in a way!

    She guided so many of us as we have been on life’s journey. I miss her often and wish she were there to speak with each time I visit the University again.

    May her children be blessed with patience and compassion just as she was such a blessing to all of us.

    Your grandsons “Rock” and so does your memory my friend. May it live on forever.
    “Rock on Kaye!”

  155. Deb Says:

    So your grandsons are getting ready to go back to school. Ted is in the 7th and Diego in the 5th…can you believe it. Ted is going to play basketball this year and Diego continues with football…
    My life has taken such a turn in the last few months and god do I wish you were here to talk to…I find myself talking to you all the time…I just wish I could hear your voice, your support, your love.
    I know if you were here, you would be here with me in Colorado helping me get thru this.
    Please watch over me and guide me.
    I miss you Mama!
    The boys miss you!

  156. Rob S Says:

    I knew Kaye from my time at DCRP in the late 1990s, and she was a wonderful part of my experience there. After graduation I lived on the East Coast for a number of years, and it was there that I heard about her passing from a DCRP classmate. It was so saddening then, and I was sad not to have been able to attend her memorial service.

    But just today when thinknig of someone at DCRP I ran across this website and was just overwhelmed at all the love and concern expressed here, and all the lives that Kaye touched — and I know this is just a fraction of all the people. I am so glad that this site was created and serves as a continuing, ever-growing memorial to Kaye. I also hope that the warm and loving comments expressed here can help give some comfort to Kaye’s family. I know it has helped me.

    We miss you, Kaye!

  157. Barbara Says:

    I met Kaye one fall evening in 1977 by phone. She had called to get some information about a church newsletter that I had edited for years and she was now going to edit. We talked for 3 hours. A few days later we met in person when I heard her distinctive voice singing behind me in church. We became good friends immediately and remained so. We could make each other laugh in good times and bad. My daughter baby sat for Dave, Deb and Di. All our children became close. Several years later, I fell in love with her father-in-law, and soon became her mother-in-law as well as her friend. The memory of our get-togethers and our phone conversations bring a glow to my heart and a smile to my lips. The family support when my husband died helped ease the unbearable pain. Kaye was always there. Her children and grandchildren mean more to me than I can find words to express. They are loving, kind and strong, just like she wanted them to be. I miss my brilliant, funny, loving, imperfect, perfectly lovable friend.

  158. Tasha Says:

    It always amazes me how time flies by! Angel is 14, Teddy is 13, Timmy will be 13 in 12 days! I remember them as babies now they’re teens! I wish Leo & Leilani could have met you I know they would’ve adored you! I miss you & will always regret not keeping in touch. You would be so proud of Sandra’s triumphs & I know you helped her through her patches this year! I know you’re in a better place being the #1 guardian angel!! Love you!

  159. Debbie Says:

    Hey…you are heavy on my mind and in heart today…wish you were here!

  160. Barbara (Archer) Reeves Says:

    Kaye and I met in the first grade and were close friends throughout our school years. Kaye left a lasting impression as a true and giving person. Kaye was very intelligent, and wanted to always help those in need of direction or guidance. All her friends who graduated with her from W.W. Samuel High, Dallas, class of ’62, will miss her deeply.

  161. Nelda (Pinson) Wright Says:

    Kaye was in my first grade classroom called Pleasant Grove Elementary. I remember her as a very friendly, well liked classmate. After all of these years, a sweet thing I remember about her was that she and a little boyfriend named Johnny would walk hand in hand across the playground. She graduated with all of her classmates and me from W. W. Samuel High, Dallas, TX with a lot of wonderful memories of her.

    Nelda (Pinson) Wright

  162. Theodore Bock-Bernardi Says:

    I want everyone one to know that this was my grandma. She was the best grandma ever and we all still miss her and wish she was here. I love you grandma and always will.

  163. Anonymous Says:

    I just want to say that i love you grandma. also that this is my granma . grandma kako was the best grandma you could ever have in a life time.

  164. Debbie Says:

    4 yrs, how has it been 4 yrs since you left? I miss you Mama. Teddy is almost 15 yrs old…talking about driving! Diego is 12 now and I have to take him to see a neurologist this week because he has been having really bad headaches…I am worried. I miss you so much and wish you were still here. I guess you are never too old to need your Mommy. I will be35 yrs old this year…and I still need you.

  165. Debbie Says:

    Today my Mama would have been 67 years old. You left this world way too early! You are still loved and truely missed.

    Happy Birthday Mama!

    Love You,


  166. Patti Chaiyasit Says:

    Kay is the kindest and most genuine person I know. She is probably the most selfless person I have ever met who would do just about anything for anyone who needs her help. Over the years that I have known her, she took in countless people into her home and under her wings–regardless if she received any thanks for it or not.

    Aside from her incredible kindness and generosity, her hugs are forever imprinted in me. She has some of the warmest and most comforting hugs! I miss her and wished I could have another one of those hugs again…The last hug I go from her was when I took my son to meet her. Seems so long ago. If I would have known I would never get another one of those hugs again, I would have asked for a another…

    I love you, Kay. and I miss you dearly…

  167. Ngo Viet Nam Son Says:

    Kaye is a great supporter for students when they are in needs for help. In the first Quarter, I had a bad academic adviser who obviously discriminated me (I still do not understand why?) and refused to approve every plan/work I proposed to do in CED. I was in a crisis when Kaye helped me to change to a new academic adviser the next Quarter. He was a wonderful professor who then became my thesis Chair. I am indebted to Kaye for her great help. Rest in peace , My dear Kaye. Nam Son MCP’97

  168. Duane D. Says:

    Glad this site is still up as my thoughts of Kaye often come up.
    This is a good spot to stop in and reminisce about a Good Soul!

    She keeps on inspiring us and may her legacy live on! Thanks my dear Kaye. Duane D.

  169. Jessica Kuo Says:

    I graduated from the MCP program yesterday, and find myself here tonight after having the honor of receiving the DCRP Community Building Award in memory of Kaye. This actually isn’t my first time here – I came across this site nearly a year ago after I first heard her name and wondered who she was. I was so touched, and sad that I never had the chance to get to know her. In revisiting this site, I am once again overwhelmed with melancholy and curiosity, but also hope and pride in the legacy of DCRP.

    The most ironic thing about me being the recipient of Kaye’s award is that I, perhaps more than anyone else, needed a Kaye Bock in my tumultuous MCP career. The sleepless months leading up to graduation nearly broke me. Kaye couldn’t welcome me with a hug when I stumbled into Wurster, but I think I did come across bits and pieces of her – in the current DCRP staff, in the faculty, and especially in my classmates. They have supported me with no judgment, and believed in me when I was lost. They drive me to strive forward with love, acceptance, action. They inspire me to be the planner I want to be, and to bring to others what Kaye has brought to our department. In his commencement speech last night, Randy Hester reminded us to not simply embrace the Berkeley difference, but to own the Berkeley difference. Kaye clearly owned the Berkeley difference. I hope I can too.

    Thank you, Kaye, for all you have given us.

  170. Diana Says:


    Your birthday is just a couple of days away, you would be turning 71 this year, I miss you so much. So many things have changed since you left us, and we still need you every day. I hope you know how happy I am now, truly happy. I wish you could meet Todd, I know you would love him as much as I do. Please send a sign to Dave and Deb to let them know you are still with them, every day, as I know you are. I love you ma!

  171. Lekshmi Sukumaran Says:

    I remembered her today, after 15 years of leaving the USA. While I was in the valley for 2 years, I had applied to DCRP for PhD. I was encouraged by Kaye Bock when I couldn’t make it and she kept the communication even after I left US in 2004. I was battling depression and Kaye’s Mails came as a ray of hope at that difficult period. She touched my life positively like she has done to many others.

    May her soul rest in peace